If you follow my social media, you might assume that I go out to fancy restaurants a lot–hence me always being dressed up. (I discovered this was an idea people had when my friend mentioned it to me, laughing, and said “well you go out to fancier places much more than I ever do.)
Maybe that’s even a turnoff for you from my content, because you might think, “well I don’t go to places like that a lot and I don’t have anywhere to wear stuff like that, and I don’t have anyone to go out with.”
Have you thought that? Have you?
It’s cool if you have – though let me tell you something. Those fancy dresses I wear all the time? The so-called fancy restaurants I go to? It’s not my day to day reality. I live in sleepy little Southern Utah County, where the nightlife is limited and it’s mostly conservative families, and ya know – I’m a busy mom of 6.
Most days, I work from home. It’s me, my laptop, some laundry probably waiting to be folded, and a calendar full of things I care deeply about.
And sometimes? I just don’t feel like doing any of it.
Life throws things. Emotions bubble up. Stress creeps in.
But I still have to show up, because you know, I’m a mom and a business owner and have a mortgage and all that.
It’s those days when I really have to be intentional about practicing what I preach. Which means I REALLY have to tune into my body and figure out what I need that day.
And when I do, my body gives me a clear answer.
Sometimes it’s: “Soft pajamas, no bra, lots of tea.”
Other times, it’s: “We need some serious Goddess energy, girl, pull out a show-stopper!”
Yesterday was one of those days. I felt crummy. In truth, I’d spent the day before bawling all day, in my actual pajamas. I got no work done.
I couldn’t spend the next day the same way. So I went into my closet and did my thing.
(Are you wondering what “the thing” is? It’s my easy method that I teach in my FREE guide, “Dress Like a Goddess in 90 Seconds.”).
I breathed, I listened. I asked.
I opened my eyes and spotted a pink number hanging in my closet, tags still on. I bought this skirt/top combo over spring break and have been waiting to wear it until the weather was warm enough and I needed its vibes.
That day was the day. I showered, shaved my legs, put my perfume on, did my hair and makeup, and slipped into that pink floral number and showed up.
Even though I wasn’t leaving the house. Even though I wasn’t going to see anyone else. Even though it really wasn’t quite warm enough outside for me.
And, I don’t have a miraculous story to tell you about the results. I didn’t get any sales, I didn’t overcome any big hurdles. Life went on.
But here is the biggest takeaway, AND the most important one:
I FELT BETTER.
I even felt GOOD.
I didn’t spend the whole day crying in my bed. (We’ve all been there, ya?)
I got some work done — some work I was proud of that I’d been procrastinating. And I felt GOOD.
Recently I’ve been re-listening to my favorite book of all time Pussy: A Reclamation by Regena Thomashauer (did that word make you cringe? I totally get it! If it did, I have something really special cooked up for you HERE!)
In it, Mama Gena talks about the importance of TLC for our bodies – loving and honoring them in all ways, and especially with how we dress.
She says:
“We saw that adorning her meant activating her, much like Wonder Woman’s golden cuffs.”
That quote stuck out to me because DAMN, I want to feel and be like Wonder Woman!
And that is how I felt yesterday. Like a soft, beautiful version of Wonder Woman. I wanted to feel ultra feminine, which wasn’t about the flowers or the color pink, but about what that outfit did for me. Feminine is intuitive, it’s nurturing, it’s loving, and it’s creative.
It’s how I come back to myself.
It’s how I show love and respect to myself, even on the bad days.
This isn’t about performance—it’s about presence!
If you’re ready to feel really good in what you wear—like, for yougood—I can support you in that!
Here’s where we can start–> Book a FREE connection call with me HERE!
AND If you’re a girl who:
- The word “pussy” makes you uncomfortable… and you’re kinda curious about why.
- You were taught to keep your sensuality quiet, contained, or only for someone else’s pleasure.
- You’ve never worn lingerie just for you. (Or you always thought it had to be for someone else.)
- You feel silly or shameful expressing your desires (or maybe you’ve forgotten what they even are).
Then get on the wait list for a MEGA EPIC BEAUTIFUL event I’m hosting in June called “She Comes First: Own Your Pleasure. Take Up Space. Light the Damn Room On Fire!”
Learn more HERE–> “She Comes First”
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