Have you ever felt like you don’t belong anywhere?
I know I did.
Not at school, where my friends seemed happier and freer than me, unburdened by the rules and expectations that weighed me down.
Not at church, where I never felt good enough—despite doing everything I was “supposed to.”
I was constantly at odds with myself—pulled in so many different directions by so many people.
The messages were crazy!
The messages piled on as I moved into my twenties. Married, ultra religious, and sad:
These messages piled on in my twenties. By my thirties, they became even heavier, more suffocating:
And so many more.
Sound familiar to anyone?
I was a girl riddled with shame around all sorts of things: money, sex, body image, worthiness, love, and independence.
I was also a girl who was ready for liberation! I fell in love with someone who ignited a spark of knowing and intuition within me. And once that happened, there was no going back—my fire couldn’t be put out!
The old Maren felt lonely, broken, and repressed. Not seen. Not heard.
The current Maren? She still has her moments, but she’s done the work. She’s healed, processed, and transformed. And now, I look back at my younger self with compassion and admiration.
Current Maren looks back on her younger self with compassion and admiration! I was just a young girl trying to find happiness and do what was expected of me.
And when those things ended up fire-bombing my life, it became a soulful life and death situation for me.
The worse things got in my life and the more I felt like my soul was dying, the more desperate I became for a way up and out. For me, that meant:
- ✅ Leaving my first marriage
- ✅ Marrying my true love
- ✅ Questioning and deconstructing beliefs that didn’t align with me
- ✅ Rewriting my old stories about women and sexuality
- ✅ Having another baby (after two years of resistance!)
- ✅ Leaving my lifelong religion
- ✅ Finding new, soul-aligned friendships
- ✅ Owning my past, including my divorce and “scandal”
- ✅ Wearing the clothes that felt authentic to me
- ✅ Starting a podcast and publicly talking about my life
- ✅ Stepping into coaching and self-worth work
- ✅ Taking a hard and new look at how I treated my body and my health
And here I am! Showing up with pictures of me in my rawest and most vulnerable moments, rocking my outfits and clothes I want to, posting videos of me getting dressed every day, talking about my life on my podcast and all the ups and downs.
Because there’s so much power in being real! When I compiled all these messages, it was a little crazy to remember what I was being bombarded with—what we all are, especially as women!
But listen:
You are not your weight
You are not your cellulite
You are not your income
You are not your spouse
You are not your grades
You are not your kids’ achievements
You know what you ARE?
An expression of divinity.
And that means you are, inherently,:
Beautiful.
Capable.
Strong.
Intelligent.
Free.
Loved.
Abundant.
And you don’t have to earn any of it.
You don’t have to prove it.
You don’t have to hide it, either.
Your body and your spirit are so wise, and you have everything you need inside of you to become the version of yourself that instead of rejecting, embraces these qualities and celebrates them. (Wondering how to start that? Go HERE)
Sometimes we just need a little nudging along the way. 😘
This is what I do as an Intuitive Stylist and Coach and my specialty in my Style Edit Sessions!
If you want to feel more:
✨ confident and empowered
✨ authentic and aligned
✨ radiant and magnetic
✨ grounded and present
✨ unstoppable and free
you can!
And you can start for FREE!
I offer a few different freebies, but my favorite one is “Dress Like a Goddess in 90 Seconds,” – a quick and easy but powerful guide and workshop that will help you make getting dressed in the morning a fun practice rather than a stressed out, unaligned thing we have to do.
But if you’re wanting real support, your best bet is to book a single Style Edit Session with me to unlock what’s holding you back in self-expression, or check out my long-term coaching packages!
So, what resonated with you?
Do you have a myriad of messages circulating in your system–many that aren’t right for you?
Have you ever struggled with not feeling like you were enough?
Do you feel held back then in your style and expression because of it?
Leave a comment or email me and let me know!
In the meantime, you got this.
Much Love,
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